Sure, you might want to enrol in an adult finishing school and reserve a weekend to attend classes with your notepad in hand, but that seems not only depressing but wholly unnecessary. There is no need to spend an absurd amount of money on a weekend of ‘chins up’ and ‘shoulders back,’ especially when it’s crucial these days not only to know old-world etiquette but to blend that with a modern-day attitude. We’re here to let you know exactly what you’ve been doing hideously and unforgivably wrong throughout the years and teach you nine ways to correct it.
1. Manners Cost Nothing
Simple but true. Please and thank you make the world a happier place. Good manners will never get old, whether you’re purchasing your regular oat milk latte at your local Starbucks or interacting with the sommelier at The Savoy.
On the topic of manners, please and thank you isn’t always enough. For instance, if someone’s hosted you for an evening, you should either bring a gift with you or send flowers and a thank you card afterwards.
2. Lend A Helping Hand
You’ll be the ultimate sophisticated lady by merely offering to lend a helping hand. If you’re at a dinner party for example, don’t forget to ask if they need assistance with anything. However, be careful not to offend – we’re sure they have it under control. If a friend of yours is going through a rough time or appears to be overwhelmed, a helping hand might be exactly what they need.
Being more aware, courteous, and kind may seem like a small gesture, but it can have a huge impact. Even offering to share your hand sanitiser would go a long way in today’s world.
3. Get a Manicure
Even if you don’t wear nail polish, you must keep your hands clean and presentable. The hands are a major focus these days, with everyone showing their social circles things on their phones and other devices. If you don’t have time for a manicure but are in dire need, at the very least remove your polish and buff your nails yourself.
4. Engage in Conversation
When you’re sitting at the dining table, at any social event, or just with family and friends. Put your phone down. Recognise that conversation is a true art and remember that it is your real-world relationships and interactions that will shape and define your life, not the Instagram photo you just liked.
5. Remember your Social Media Manners
We certainly don’t blame you for needing to go on your phone – it’s the age we live in. Plus, you need to stay up to date somehow. But there’s social media etiquette too, you know. For instance, it is a serious faux-pas to exclude on social media. It is critical to include and tag people. Also, please make sure everyone in a photo is comfortable with you posting it.
6. Dress to Impress
Simple and effortless – that’s the only advice you need. Invest in timeless pieces and throw in a few statement pieces here and there.
7. Handle Your Liquor (or leave)
After a few too many cocktails, it’s difficult to remain classy. Try to sip water in between drinks at any social gathering. If you’ve had too much to drink, be sure to excuse yourself and depart. You don’t want to embarrass yourself.
8. Never Brag
Someone who brags is more than likely going to be disliked. Your closest friends will eventually find out about your expensive Chanel bag or your yacht in St. Tropez. Nothing is more refined and charming than humility.
9. Be Confident
There is so much pressure on women to be perfect, so it’s crucial to initiate some ways to feel good and recognise that confidence is key. With that being said, don’t forget your invisible crown when you leave the house. It might take time but remember to choose yourself on a daily basis. It’ll pay off.